Why celebrating change is harder than it looks


Elena Agafonova

Coach | Author | Happiness Explorer 🌱

Letters of Change

A weekly space for happiness, self-trust & the art of living well

Hello and welcome, Reader!

Some people celebrate every milestone with fireworks. I’m not one of them.

I’ve always been better at moving forward than pausing. Even when something big happens, I tend to rush into the next task instead of stopping to breathe it in.

But lately, two very different experiences reminded me how wrong that habit can be — and how life has its own way of nudging us to pause, notice, and celebrate our growth.

When success feels “not enough”

Recently, I created and launched two new tracks of change with not one, but two cohorts (!). These are online courses for people ready to change their careers and lives — The Next Chapter Journey — a project I built together with my good friend and partner.

The work was meant for a bigger team, yet somehow, the two of us managed to carry it through. All within just two weeks. Two weeks of intensity, efforts, and late nights.

Was I grateful? Absolutely. To everyone who joined us, and to those who shared our work with their friends. Did I feel like celebrating? Honestly… not really. I felt… flat. Exhausted. And in my mind, the fact that most participants were already part of my circle didn’t feel like a “real” success yet. I wanted strangers discovering my work for the first time, new faces, and proof that the idea could stand on its own.

Celebration? Somehow, it felt undeserved.

Finding celebration right where I stand.

Then came another lesson, one I couldn’t ignore.
A while back, I had written affirmations about travel, luxury hotels, and standing at a high window, looking down at the city in awe. One of those lines was: “I attract miracles into my life”.

Last week, in the midst of my work and in need of some rest, I decided to get a membership at the Radisson Blu here in Tbilisi, where I live. The membership included the spa, relaxing zones, even gift massages. One day, I was standing at the window of the 18th-floor pool, gazing at the breathtaking view of the city. And suddenly, I realized: this was the vision. I was living the dream I’d once only written about.

That moment didn’t just feel like a gift — it was a reminder.

Celebration isn’t about waiting until everything looks perfect or feels finished. It’s about recognizing the milestones and miracles along the way.

Some are messy and hard-earned, like launching a program with too little time and too few hands. Others are unexpectedly graceful, like standing in a place you once only imagined.

Both are worth pausing for. Both are worth celebrating.


One gentle prompt

Where have you skipped celebrating?
And where might life be inviting you to notice the miracle instead?

Help someone take their first step toward change

If you know a friend or colleague who tends to power through without pausing, share this letter. Sometimes the first change isn’t about action. It’s about recognizing the moment worth celebrating.

Next Wednesday I will share more stories about how changes work in practice, both for me and for the first participants of the Pathfinder and Pioneer Tracks.

Elena


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Letters of Change

Hi, I’m Elena Agafonova — Happiness & Transformation Coach, author of "The Midlife Career Pivot" and "Embrace Change Gently". Letters of Change is your quiet space to pause, reflect, and reconnect with what truly matters. Every Wednesday, receive one story, one insight, and one gentle prompt — a gift for the inner growth, helping you move through life’s transitions with more clarity, courage, and self-compassion. We’ll explore themes like: your pathway to happiness, finding purpose, career reinvention, building true self-confidence. These letters are not quick fixes, but invitations to listen deeply and grow forward — one honest step at a time. P.S. If you don’t see the confirmation email in your inbox, check your Promotions or Spam folders — sometimes quiet letters like these get misplaced. 💌

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